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How Are You Feeeeling?

When you're pregnant do you enjoy the attention or do you hate being singled out for certain things? And am I just an overly sensitive mean girl that should just shut her yapper already?

It's what I'm babbling about today.

Reader Comments (19)

I don't mind the extra attention. I just found out I'm having a girl yesterday,and everyone at work is making a huge fuss and it feels awesome. So if I take the good excitment about my daughter, I guess I have to take the stupid "OOH HOW AAAAARE YOOOOU FEEEELING". questions.

October 21, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterTeres

Congratulations! Is this your first baby? And also, how are you feeeeeling?

October 21, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterThe Girl Who

Okay, I've never been pregnant and don't plan on it anytime soon, but I can see how you'd be annoyed. I've never been sure how to approach pregnant women. Most seem tired and you want to help, but you don't want to offend. On the other, half of the pregnant women I see want to be treated like delicate little flowers and act entitled to cut in line, steal your waitress, make old people move on the bus, eat your food out of the fridge at work, and run you over with their strollers (if they have one). In other words, I'm kinda scared of the preggo belly because a lot of pregnant women are unpleasant.

Sorry. I said it. Let the flaming begin.

October 21, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterjeneria

Yes-My first baby! So farI love getting fat and not being able to shit! It's so fun! And also, next time someone asks me if I'm going to breastfeed, I'm going to say 'OMG I HAVE TO FEED IT"?!" That's another dumb, none of your business question I've been getting lately.

October 21, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterTeres

I am just about 10 weeks pregnant now - so not many people know yet. Prob wont announce for several more weeks. Im totally going to enjoy the next few weeks bc if people start asking how I'm feeeeeeling on a regular basis OR try to touch me - I will knock their asses down! So, I guess I'm a bitch too :-)

October 21, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCindi

When I was barely pregnant w/ Andrew and looking really, really green, someone I work with announced in front of a room full people..."hey what's up with you? Are you pregnant?" I was shocked b/c I didn't plan on telling anyone at work for a few more months!! But practically everyone I work with is from another country, so there's different cultural norms, etc. I just had to laugh at her bluntness and roll with it.

What I grew tired of was the endless re-telling of nightmarish birthing stories by co-workers and friends.

October 21, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterChrissy

@Chrissy Right? If you happen to mention puking or ANYTHING, coworkers immediately launch into the twenty minute "When I was pregnant..." stories.

October 21, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterThe Girl Who

I loved the attention, the kind words, the touches... But I'm a touchy feely person. So I didn't mind the entire world touching. Everyone is different, and you should feel free to tell people to fuck off, if you need/want to. :)

October 21, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAriel

at my work everyones on "bump-watch" announcing how much bigger im getting every-Effin-day.....its wearing thin now after 32 weeks.

October 21, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRia

God forbid you go over your due date.... I did with all three of mine and chose to work up until I gave birth. The endless co-worker's insensitive comments, "you're still here?!? You haven't had that thing yet???" With my reply, "yeah I am, assholes, go to hell! "

I loved being able to blame the mood swings and sporadic outbursts on the pregnancies though. That was awesome!

Wait, sorry, did I just launch into one of those "when I was pregnant.." stories? Ooops! :)

October 21, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJill

hmmm... mixed bag, that pregnancy attention. i was all for it when it meant the warm and fuzzy, rub my feet, spoil me on occasion type of attention. that was lovely and damn, i'd like some of that again. i didn't enjoy the unsolicited advice however, or having the go-to conversation involve things like mucus plugs and birth (war) stories from people i didn't know nearly well enough.

October 21, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterblair

I think I may be gulity of the "how are you feeling" questions; I'll have to be more aware of that in the future.

That didn't bother me too much when I was pregnant. I agree, it was the birth nightmare stories that I couldn't take...and these were from girlfriends who knew I was terrified of labor. Nice.

My curmudgeon-y, old, male work partner also commented on how much weight I was gaining, and how you could "really see it all in the face." That sucked.

October 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSue

Maybe you can have a tee-shirt made which states the OBvious, such as, " We are Feeling Fine, Thank you."

October 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterGina

You could also fashion a sign and post it on a stick..." No questions, please."

October 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterGina

turn it around and it says, "I'm fine. "

October 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterGina

Hate, hate, hate the attention. The baby shower was my personal hell. I'm glad people are excited for me and support me, but save the questions and cutesy comments for the baby. I just want to get through the 10 months of carrying the focus of people's attention without any fake concern or unsolicited advice. I know, I'm horrible...

October 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCamper

i just spent a good chunk of time complaining to my husband about a woman at Hallmark who came up to me and put one hand on my shoulder and the other on my stomach to VIGOROUSLY rub it. GROSS>

October 24, 2010 | Unregistered Commentermaggie may

Clicked over and read the article, I thought it was great. But, what is with all the haters in the comments? Just want you to know I've always enjoyed reading your stuff, don't let the negative comments frustrate you. Take care. Hope you're feeeeeeling well. :)

October 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterEleven

Right?! I kind of took a beat down. Not sure why... Thanks for the comment!

October 25, 2010 | Registered CommenterMonica

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