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Does This Double Chin Make My Butt Look Big?

BAM! There it is. Eighteen weeks pregnant. A twenty-five pound weight gain in five months. I started at around 133 and am tipping the scales at nearly 160. The ubiquitous they say you're only supposed to gain around thirty pounds during the entire pregnancy. Right. I'll easily double that shit. With Violet I started at 125 and ended at 176. Fifty pounds. The difference between then and now seems to be that most of my body stayed the same size except for my stomach and my eventual size 42DD chest. This time? It ain't just the belly and the boobs.

I have completely ballooned in every area. Ankles to neck, man. Even my socks feel tight. That picture up there, not entirely accurate. Notice the hand strategically covering a very generous muffin top, the arm posed in such a manner as to avoid as much bat wing spreadage as possible. Observe how I keep the ass slicked down in dark, durable material, the double chin hidden from view.

I'm cool with it. As cool as one can really be when their thighs are suddenly rubbing each other like two amorous pigs. It's part of pregnancy, yes. But you've got to let me bitch about it a little bit because gaining five pounds a month is a difficult adjustment.

So blah blah blah, enough with that.

We find out whether we're having a boy or a girl next week. I am DYING to know. I think more so than with Violet even. Violet was the first, so it didn't really matter what we had. I don't care about the sex so much this time either, I just want to know so I can start thinking about Violet with her little brother or sister. I think that's what makes it so exciting to me. Violet already being here and imagining her with her new little buddy.

Because I already have a girl you might think I have my fingers crossed for a boy but you'd be wrong. Neither Serge or I have sisters. I've always wanted a sister. Always. To have another girl would be so special to me, to be able to give Violet a sister. Two little pals. In some ways I'm really hoping for a girl for that reason. And also to make Serge's life exceedingly miserable when they're sixteen and I'm going through menopause. Oh, the times we will have!

But I also want a little boy so that would be just as cool. I thought Violet was a boy. I really did. I was so sure of it that I created a whole little person in my mind and cried when I found out we were having a girl. Not because we were having a girl but for the loss of the little guy in my head that turned out not to exist. Crazy, maybe. So this time I haven't let myself stray in one direction or the other which may be why I'm so excited to find out.

We've been tossing names around. Each pregnancy I've had a girl name solidly fixed in my mind. I wanted to name Violet something else entirely. Okay, okay, I'll tell you the name even though I'm kind of embarrassed about it now. Bleu. Bleu Bielanko. But you tell someone the name you've repeated over and over in your head and inevitably they fuck it up. Bleu Cheese, ha ha ha. Even though I was certain that's what I'd name her all the way until about month eight, Serge brought the hammer down and then Violet soared onto the radar and we were both sold on that.

I subscribe to the theory that telling anyone your name is bad news. Don't do it. They'll just ruin it for you with their stupid reaction. They won't like it enough or they'll say something especially annoying.

She doesn't mean to but my mom excels at ruining names for me. She has to associate every name with something. She works with a lady she hates who has that name, she went to school with a girl who picked her nose who had that name. That annoying song has that name. Better just to name the kid and then tell everyone, this is the name! It's hard to give attitude when it is officially the name and they're looking at a sweet little baby.

So yeah, I have a girl name I really like that, once again, Serge isn't sold on. He's not entirely opposed, but he has a couple he likes better. I also think I've got a boy name I like that I think Serge is on board with but the thing about Serge is that he's a pain in the ass to talk names with. Here I am with pages and pages of name combinations and he couldn't care less. Toward the end he'll indulge me, get serious and we'll decide on something but I want to talk names now! And then I thought, well hell, there's a whole internet that will talk names with me until I'm bleu blue in the face.

If you had a baby right now, what would you name it? Or what have you already named your children? C'mon, give it up. If you're a girl you've likely had a new Favorite Baby Name! every year of your life. I'm 99% certain I won't steal your name, unless it's one I already have in my head. Especially if you like some new-fangled name with a fancy spelling. That's not my thing. I like classic, names that I can picture on a person of any age. I also try to shy away from popular names because I always hated when there were, like, three Jennifers and two Ashleys in my school class, but I am guilty of liking a few on the popular list. Ava. Lily. One of the names Serge likes is in the top ten, I think.

One more thing! One of the boy names I like is actually a nickname for the real name. Not so much a nickname, but, okay here's an example: kind of like naming your kid Luke instead of naming him Lucas and calling him Luke. Or naming your kid Matt instead of Matthew. But I don't want to name him the real name, I like the nickname better. Serge said it might be kind of weird to do that. Is it?

Reader Comments (104)

Big baby!

About sisters: Sisters are great, I have two, but there will be a Dark Time in Sisterhood that you will need to deal with- Mordor-type-throwing-each-other-into-the-fires-of-doom-shit. Or maybe they will be pleasant besties forever! Or maybe off and on forever, stealing each others' clothes and being buddies and punching each other.

About names: I know what you mean about liking a shortened version. My dad's name is John Henry, but everyone calls him Jack. If I had a boy, I'd want to name him Jack, but maybe not Jackson or John. Just Jack.

People name their babies all sorts of horrible things. I don't think a nickname will be the worst or weirdest name ever. That one goes to someone my sis-in-law worked with: N-a. How do you say that? Nadasha. Yep.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterchristinewithanx

we (i use that term loosely, as to include my husband, not because he really did any of the birthing, but because i guess he did his part) just birthed a willow kate, but the repubs here in bama almost ruined it by reminding me that sarah palin has a mini-her named that... ours is way cooler though... i have faith!

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered Commentercourt

Stolichnya Avril, and we could call her Stoli for short :)
I love vodka!

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJen

I have four kiddos- Alison, William, Patrick and Benjamin. All pretty classic names, but they all have nicknames. Al, Liam, Poppy or Patch and Benji. And everyone including teachers calls them by the nicknames. I sorta like the full name, that way, when they are older they can be called whatever the hell they want. I am not sure that Patrick will want to be called Poppy when he is 40-but who knows? I think naming kids is one of the hardest things I have done, and still wish sometimes that I had named them other things. Now I just hoard animals and name them fun things like Penny and. Have fun with it.

My friend has a Violet, and a Lily. Her next girl will be a flower name as well.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCandi

Naming the nickname is all the rage now. So it isn't weird. If anything, it's becoming much more common.

Man, naming is a crisis. We've got at least another year until we even attempt #2 and I still run names by my husband on a regular basis because he's so difficult. I spent a while talking him into the first one.

For a boy we're really split. We like Archer, but I don't like it with our last name. Sounds weird. We like Patrick, but that was the name of my first boyfriend. Weird. Our third boy name is a nutty one, but it's very likely where we'd end up if nothing else shows up: Tycho. Ty for short, named for the astronomer Tycho Brahe. He's a scientist, we're nerds.

Girls are hard, too. We loved Chloe, but now it's too popular. We are still debating whether Zoe is similarly too common. Same with Lila. It seems like every time I get attached to a girls name it becomes super popular. (I loved Emma and Hannah in the mid-90's, for example, right before they boomed.) No clue where we'll end up if we get a girl.

What's pathetic is I have a very long list of names I love that my husband would NEVER agree to. I love them anyway. And it's not just a hypothetical list. It's a written-down list. I am nuts.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJessica

For our babies names I tried to pick names that weren't out there (Pilot Inspektor anyone??) but not so "classic" that you could find them on old pioneer records ;). We went with Lindsey for our daughter and Jeffrey for our son. So far so good, no duplicates in school as of yet. I would know, I knew 5 Nicoles in high school.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterNicole B

My rule of thumb is....picture your son or daughter as a middle-aged judge. Judge Brittany? Judge Ashton? Uh-uh. Choose something classic that wears well. Biblical is always good.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCarol

Baby bellies are hands-down one of the most beautiful things on the planet. You look absolutely gorgeous, love handles and all.

I'm right there with you on classic names (at least for girls). I want my first girl to be Alice Elizabeth, and I'm also partial to Maggie, Lydia, and Regina. For a boy, though, I'm set on Lennon or Jackson.

I love the idea of using a "nickname" as a "real name". I love "Maggie", but I'm not so partial to "Margaret".

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterStacey

Exactly! The boy name I have in mind is like Margaret/Maggie. Don't like Margaret but love Maggie.

September 27, 2010 | Registered CommenterMonica

It sort of makes me have a nonsexual crush on your sweet husband that he stopped "Bleu Bielanko" from happening. I've got two hard to spell names and it's crazy making.

I was traveling a LOT for work out to Tyler, TX ("The Rose of Texas" - yeah, right, my roses aren't DRY). I stayed often at a hotel where one of the desk clerks was named Sa'Dell. Wasn't sure how to say it and, well, I have an unusual name, too, so we started chatting about it. Turns out, it's not like saddle. It's like Cedelle. He told me that they tell him it's kind of after his grandma, but that really his dad wanted to name him Sedan Deville (at this, he looks at me and says, "you know? the cadillac?"), but his mama put her foot down and said no way. So, he is Sa'Dell. Which, while perhaps challenging, is a walk in the park compared to being named after a car model. He told me he loves his mama very much and thanks her pretty much every day.

When I met him, Sa'Dell's SO was expecting their first child. A girl. I asked what they planned to name her. And he said, shyly, "Vivianna. It means life." I told him it was beautifiul and meant it. And several weeks later, little Miss Vivianna was born and was as beautiful as her name.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMishell

I have Luke and he is not a Lucas but I really liked the name and still do. I also have a Kyle and a Noel and guess what Noel wasn't even born around Christmas like everyone asks...nope I just liked the name.

But if a had another girl I would so name her Chole or Stella . Boys would be Cash or Levi.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterShelly

I might not be having another one and I kid you not the ONE reason I am so sad is I would never get to name another kid. Gah, sad. Anyway, if I had a girl, and my husband had zero say, it would be Verity. For a boy, Sebastian. Best of luck with your naming and you may steal those if you'd like!

I don't think naming the nickname is in all cases fact I was once resolutely against naming a kid something and then calling him something else. But I've sort of backed up on that. For example, I am Jennifer but what if my mom had named me Jenny. OMFG I think I would have died. But it's hard to say because that would have just been my name. So I have come to the conclusion that it is now just a personal decision and probably depends on how much the nickname is a stand alone name itself. For example, with Luke, I really think of Luke as a name on its own, independent of Lucas. But Jenny, I would tend to think it is a nickname.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterjen

Our little guy is Griffin - unique enough without being Kal-el Cage! ;) And you better believe we did not tell ANYONE in my family what his name would be unitl after he was born, as they most certainly would have made comments, faces, etc.
I also like the Biblicals - Jonah, Noah, but the hubbo wasn't into them. For girls I like Alexandra, Madeleine (although it's super popular now) and a co-worker just had a Phoebe, which I think is super cute for a little girl.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSuzanne

Annabel or Pierre

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterkatie allison granju

We have 4 girls, KayCee Dale, Lainee Josephine, Brenna Raye and Alex Jaye. The last two are twins, identical, so we named them a and b to go with the labels on the ultrasounds and opted to have the middle names rhyme. I also loved Jolene, Bodie, Corbin, Blaine. Good luck, it's tough to pick out a name for a kid you don't know. What if you name them Amanda and they are totally a Bridget? lol, maybe someone will give you a better suggestion than I have. :)

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKLabmom

I always loved the name Chloe, however it is on the top 20 these days.
As far as guy names... I think Jack is classic and cool.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterGd

My parents named me Hanni (my dad is Austrian), and I've often thanked my parents for my name. Because it's so different, people have an easier time remembering me which has come in handy at times. For that reason, I like unusual names. We named our almost 4-year old daughter Kael Elaine (Kael because we liked it and it was a little unusual, Elaine because it's my middle name and my grandmother's name). "Kael" wasn't trendy at the time but it seems to be a little more so now. I'm not big on the trendy or too traditional. Some other names I like are : Sasha (Sash for short), Bristol (could never name a child that, though, for obvious reasons), Leif, Hunter (family name, but too trendy now)... I also like the idea of naming a girl a name that could also be a boy's name - Kael, if she was a boy, was going to be Kael Campbell. Soooo much to think about when naming...can't wait to hear your name!

Oh - and one unusual boy's name I heard recently : Cable. Not sure I'd name a kid that, but kind of cool.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterHanni

People always spell my name (Carmen) wrong, always have. So I wanted to pick a 'common' name for my children so they wouldn't have to spell it every time like their poor mother. But them this modern (redneck/bogan) trend of 'individualising' names by messing with the spelling came along and now they have perfectly normal, correctly spelt names and no-one can spell them anyway! For the record their names are:
Caitlin, not katelyn(spew), caitlyn, katelin or any other variant. and
Melissa" that's one 'l', two 's's and an 'i' not a 'y'. FOOLS.

Someone told me before you settle on a name, stand at the back door and holler it. If you still like it, it's a keeper (The theory is that's how you are going to be hearing it most oftn-hollered!)

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterTGIAA

Sebastian Thomas for our hypothetical future son and Mackenzie (DH chose spelling) no middle name yet for our hypothetical future daughter. My husband wants to nickname Sebastian as Sea Bass. You know, like the fish...I think of Bastian from The Neverending Story. Good luck. It's the one thing I dread most about having kids!

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRebecca


September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMargaret

I never said- it's kind lucky we had two girls because we could not come up with a single boys name we both liked. I went into the labour ward telling the midwife that if it was a boy, it would be named Mastercard Pepsi in the hopes that we could at least make some $$$ out of our dilemma.
I think if number 2 had actually been a boy, we would have drawn a name out of a hat, or I would have just written what I wanted on the birth certificate and we would have called him by a pet name- My brother is Michael David according to his birth certificate, but if you want to get his attention, you'll have to call him what his family have called him his whole 19years of life, Boz (long story))

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterTGIAA

We have an Abbie--not an Abigail, Abbie. I hated "Abigail" back when I was 21 and having my first baby, and I'll admit it helped me feel a bit of power since "Abbie" was my husband's favorite name and I was giving in. So, I insisted on "Abbie" if that was the route we were going.

I kinda wish now we would've gone with Abigail just to let her pick. But I'm a pain in the ass, careful to not give in TOO much.

We also have a Joseph. At first I was insistent: his name was NOT to be "Joey" but then, y'know age and some maturity, I guess, convinced me that if we were going with Joseph he would inevitably be "Joey" to someone. So whatever. I figure when he gets older the Joey thing better go away.

At least, it better.

Also, my husband's family tradition (they're LDS) is to not give their girls a middle name because once they get married their maiden name will become their middle name. Soooo we went with that. Now that she's 7 and we've gotten over the whole Mormon thing AND we never had another little girl, I want to give her a middle name. My great-grandma's name (Adele). But because she's 7 she's not hep on the idea of Adele. I should never have told her. Should've just done it. Might do it anyway.


Anyway, totally with you. Keep the name a secret. "Megan" was ruined for me forever. Baby Megan this, baby Megan that, shutthefuckup!!!

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterlisa

Our son is Benjamin Declan but he goes by Declan. I am still in love with his name. We are expecting number 2 but aren't finding out the sex. We like Maeve for a girl and Rex or Angus for a boy. Don't tell our families, though. We don't wanna here the grief.

Also, I like classic names that can be shortened. Like Charlotte = Charley, Margaret= Maggie or Rette.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKaty

I like Gabriella for a girl, Robert for a boy. I really like Robby for a little boy, and Rob/Robert for an older dude. I like Gaby for a little girl - same thing. Plus I am latina, and the names both work well in English and Spanish.

I also jones out over Clara....

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterEmily

We have an Eamon and a Hazel. Hazel Belle (middle name).
I also like Julian and Oliver for boys.
Getting to name a human being is so totally thrilling!
Lately I've been obsessed with whether we picked the right names. I'll look at my kids and try to imagine their names are Sullivan and Ella, Toby and Freya, Felix and Maggie, Leo and Rosie. It freaks me out and makes we wish I got to name a bunch of people.
But when all is said and done, I can't imagine my babies, these two specific babies, being named anything but what they are. Funny how that works.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterHeather

I am a Jennifer but was known as Jake.

I like Tanis, Owen, Sebastian, and Jack for boys.
I like Doris, Winifred, Guinevere, and Tanis for girls.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJeneria

There's a fascinating website, showing the trend in baby names:

It's addictive; once you start, you may be looking up names for hours . . .

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterT

My little guy is Zach, short for Zachary Lyle.

I won't have another, but if I did - Sawyer and Scout would be at the top of names list. I also love Finn, Farrow and Willow.

I think you look amazing.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterNJ

I had a long list of girls names going into the hospital. I had placenta previa and had been on bed rest for two months so I had plenty of time to think about it. We had finally narrowed it down to Neva (after her father's grandmother) and then when I saw her I wasn't so sure. I was in the hospital for a week because of the transfusions and the last day the staff came in and said "look, you guys need to name this baby before you leave." Her dad left and came back with a book I had of famous essays from women in history. He stood at the end of my bed and read a speech from Lucy Parsons, a wobbly organizer at the turn of the 20th century, who called on women to recognize we are as valuable as men and must insist on equal rights - heavy stuff for the early 1900's.

Anyway, he started crying at the end of the speech - I had never seen him cry - and I said yes, her name is Lucy. And it fits her perfectly 15 years later. And yes, it's ok to wait until you meet your baby to make a final decision.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLucy's mom

I like the "nickname" as a name. But I also like the idea of a longer name that has more than one nickname so the child can choose when he/she grows up. My daughter Lillian can be Lilly or Lil or as stated above Judge Lillian.

If we were to have any other kids I'd name a daughter Cleo (after my grandmother) and a son Evan. Don't know where those names are on the list, but it doesn't matter, we are done having kids anyway!

I agree with keeping the name a secret too. It was much more fun not telling anyone the second time around. :)

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAnjie B.

Holy cow! You had a commenter above me who also named their kid Eamon! I have two boys,
Eamon Maxwell and Callum Crawford. Our last name is a common male first name, so I wanted to find something a bit unique. Also, they are a quarter Irish and a quarter Scots - so the are fitting names.

Eamon would have been Ava - prior to the Ava boom, Callum would have been Isla, which I love so much. Middle name would probably have been Gwendolyn for my grandmother.

And don't tell anyone, just find a name you both like and can live with. Rowan was ruined for me as a girls name and I still love it.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterlindsayc

My dad always likes to tell about how each one of his 4 daughters was supposed to be a Rebecca but when we came out we just didn't look like a Rebecca (until the last one). I think it's important to have thought of some names but it is also important to meet the little one before making the final decision.

When Rebecca was born my dad says that he always wanted to call her Becky... but it never stuck. I think if you like the nickname you should go ahead and name them that. Other kids and siblings will give them a nickname anyway :)

You look lovely! Congratulations :)

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCharlotte

Well, I have a boy and a girl. My son was named Andrew Jay but we call him Andy. My daughter is Molly. I thought about naming her after my mother-in-law. Her name is Eleanore and we debated calling the baby Ellie. If you're thinking about a family name and then decide not to go that route, be sure your husband doesn't blab to the family member after the fact. Not really sure that she's forgiven us. I was told to use this acid test for naming a boy. If the phrase, "___(insert name)_____, give me your lunch money" sounds correct, pick another name.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAmy

I named my daughter Josaleigh Rain. It rained everyday for the first 4 months of my pregnancy. We call her Josi. She is my rainy day sunshine!

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSandy

We hispanics have a horrible tradition of naming first borns after the parents, so in order to avoid almost getting a divorce at that point (i eventually got one anyway) my son is named Eric after his father, my mother chose Azael for his middle name.
If i ever have another son i will name him Leon, if i was ever to have a girl i have several: Victoria, Daphne, Isabella, Drew, Gwen, and Alizeé.

And by the way, your belly is gorgeous, i see no stretch-marks!!

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAimee

I am Alice Elizabeth. My 4-year-old daughter is Lily Claire. My daughter is everything brilliant and silly that the name Lily Claire encumbers :) Lily has always been my favorite name and it's actually bothersome that it's become such a popular name... mainly because I've never seen so many ways to spell a flower (Lilly, Lillie, Lili, Lilli, etc.) Before I had her, I had honestly never seen it spelled other than, Lily. Which I think is prettiest.

For girls names I like: Charlotte, Bella, Ruby, Roslyn or Rosemary (family names)
For boys names I like: Shay (short for Seamus) and Asa (family name)

Good luck choosing! It was definitely my favorite part of being pregnant. Which, FYI, I also gained 50lbs. Don't worry about it, you are beautiful and fun! Can't wait to see what you guys decide!!

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAlice

So interesting because my Eleanor's nickname is Blue. She is called Blue because of her enormous blue eyes. When she is not being called Blue, she is Ele. She is named after my sweet grandmother. Then there is our sweet little Phineas. Phin for short, or Monkey is what he is called most of the time. My hubs came up with Phineas. I wanted to name him George or Luca, but Jac LOVED Phineas. he did all this research while I was DYING of labor pains and I didn't freaking care what we named him at that point, I just wanted his HUGE 9 lb butt out of me:D So, there are my Minnies names. Eleanor and Phineas. IF I have another, and that is a BIG if, I will name her Claire or Elizabeth, and if it's another boy, he would be either Henry or George. Can't wait to read what you are having and can't wait to hear his or her name. I LOVE Violet. It was actually in the running for Ele. Good luck. Jac and I actually didn't speak to each other for a couple of days over names for Ele.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterKel Scott

I also have a Lucy. Not Lucille, Lucia, etc. (4 months) So I'm all good with nicknames being real names, unless they are only and obviously used as nicknames (so that everyone would assume their real name was the long version.
I second the baby name wizard website, and also check out:

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered Commenternanstick

We knew the gender of our first child, and with that her name, Sarah, at 5 months, but deferred with our second. and was dumbfounded and totally unprepared when she turned out to be a girl. The powers that be weren't going to let us fill in our own birth certificate so a few hours before we took our little family home we named her Madeline which we totally stole from my wife's friend who had it on the top of her list. Pretty crappy I know but that was 18 years ago and oh well, what are you going to do. No more kids after that, but we named our dogs Lucy, Archie, Ethel, Ella, Otis and Finn. My sister named her sons Augustus (Augie) and Lincoln and somehow they seem to have grown into names that cause most folks to scratch their heads.

September 27, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterjimbo

In recent months I kind of broke some kind of taboo and became romantically involved with my flatmate, who is an American girl over here in Prague teaching English. Or she was until her visa was denied, and so she is heading back to the US in a few weeks.

What does this have to do with baby names? I hear you ask. Well, I will explain..

Back in April the two of us went away to a small Czech town for my birthday, and while there we both became partial to a particular brand of beer, which to this date I am convinced is the best beer the Czechs, who without doubt make the best beer in the world, have managed to produce thus far.

After two hours of drinking it, my flatmate declared that her first born child would be named after this particular beer. I, perhaps insensitively considering at the time we were still just friends, pointed out that my legendary fondness for beer not-withstanding, no child of mine was going to be named after one, although I did agree that if we ever got a dog together I would be more than happy with the name....

The beer in question, truly the best I have ever had in my extensive years of research, is called....


So you could have Vi and Svi for short....

Or probably not.

Apologies for the long post. I haven't written anything in a while and my fingers got carried away typing!


September 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDamien

I like Girls:
Josie- Josephine-
Louis- Louie
also-I think You look great Monica!!!!

September 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJanet

My roommate and I were talking about the nickname thing the other day - why would someone need a "formal" name if you're never going to call them that? I think it's just an idea created by our society! So go ahead with the nickname....not weird at all :) Good luck!

September 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterJulia

I know a Meg. Not Megan or Meghan or Margret or Megashark. Just Meg. I think that is awesome - the name the kid what you will call it thing

September 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterDC

We had a pregnancy scare a few years ago and we were not happy at the idea of adding number 3. So Leo decides that we'll just punish our unborn child for life by giving it a really strange name. His#1 him Halloween & call him 'Hal' for short.

I had Ramona picked out for pregnancy # 2 if we had another girl. I still think Ramona Davitt sounds so cool. But we are 100% forever done w/ children, so feel free to use it if you like it.

September 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterChrissy

Anne-Louise and Ezra Jack.

September 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMichele

When I was preggers last time I REALLY wanted to name the baby (if it was a girl) Odessa. I got so much grief over it. All I heard about was The Odessa File movie, (which I still have not seen) but I kept hearing about Nazis from everyone...and some NFL player whose name is Odessa. Did I really want to name my daughter after a burly football player? and all that...Still like the name though.

I also like Imogene a lot, but I got crucified over that too. Good thing I had a boy. We named him a regular boy name after a relative. Very traditional and uncontroversial.

September 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterS

I LOVE talking baby names. Love it. One of the names we had considered for a girl (but ultimately decided against) is a nickname for Elizabeth but is now a name in its own right: Elise. And she would have been plain Elise. I also have two friends who were christened Judy. So I think using a nickname and not even bothering with the long version is becoming pretty standard.

Boy names are simultaneously easier and harder. Harder for us because our last name is SO common, but neither of us like weird or made up names. Boy #1 is Rhett Joseph and Boy #2 is Jasper Clive. My husband is really into using a family name somewhere in the name but Jasper's name doesn't have that. I have two stepdaughters named Emeline and Clara, both of which I think are beautiful names. We JUST decided on a name for our daughter (I am 24.5 weeks pregnant). This basically consisted of him giving into me and me letting him pick the middle. HE likes odd/old lady names -- I think his top three were Phaedra, Edith and Agnes, none of which are my cup of tea. My absolute favourite is Penelope but we already have a dog with that name. So she will be Miriam Ines. (Ines is one of his aunt's names and a variant on Agnes.) And yeah, I don't really mind telling the name early because my experience with Jasper is, people's reactions can be horrible when the kid is out, too. Ah well. Plus, no one on this blog knows who I am anyway!

And 50 pounds is not that much to gain. I think it's pretty common. I have a friend who gained 80 pounds with each of two and she is totally thin now. You'd never know.

September 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterRebecca

First of all Congratulations! I didn't know you were up the duff again :-)
As you know, I went with plain old Emily and Oliver, both of which I love, but both are pretty popular names (Oliver at least is a little less common over here). I kind of wish I'd gone with a more unusual middle name for Emily, seeing as I saddled her with just about the most popular name of the century. And more than anything I wish I'd been more insistent and had my maiden name as Oliver's middle name (Beckett). But hey ho.
Excited for you both! and excited to hear news of whether Violet (fab name) is getting a baby bro or sis with a nickname ;-)

September 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAlison

We named our son Charlie. NOT Charles. I think it's totally ok to use a nickname/short form of another name. Just make it clear to everyone from the beginning. There are one or two people who still call him Charles and he's nearly two and we corrected them time and time again...

September 28, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterAlisonLondon

I totally thought I was having a boy, and had the name Simon ready to go. Once we found out she was a girl, we cycled through Sparrow, Vesper & Gemma before settling on Sadie, which I absolutely adore.

I still really, really love Sparrow, but it didn't pass the playground test (imagining myself shouting it out on a playground). Plus, if I had named her that, my father would have never stopped rolling his eyes.

September 28, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterjive turkey

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