Monica Bielanko
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Birthdays, A Giveaway Winner And Some Gay Stuff

It's my birthday! 36-years old. As I dropped Violet off at the YMCA She informed the class today is my birthday. After we clarified that my birthday does not, in fact, mean treats for the class, several little girls wanted to know how old I am. "Thirty-six!" I said. "Whoa! That's so ooooold" was the response.

I don't feel old. I feel good.

For kicks I went back through the website to look for birthday entries in some half-assed effort to see how I compare to previous versions of myself.

Here I am sharing thoughts about turning 29. I think this is the same year Serge set my birthday cake on fire in our little Brooklyn apartment.

Here I am writing about turning 31 and deciding to have a baby.


The winner of the beautiful love bird artwork is Lindsey (lindz221.) As usual, thanks for being here, thanks for participating and supporting me and the artists featured. Don't forget you can get %15 off anything in Liz Kapiloto's shop for the rest of today by using the coupon code "lizka15."


Yesterday, the sea of red profile pics on Facebook (are we friends? let's be friends!) made my grinchy heart swell until my bra felt tight. I'm seeing more and more Mormons join the cause and it makes me so fucking happy. My prediction of 2010 regarding Mormons and their attitudes about gay rights is slooowly coming true. It was, in part:

I think there is some young Mormon man going about his life somewhere right now who will eventually become the leader, the man the Mormons call a prophet. That man will change church doctrine much as Spencer W. Kimball did in 1978 when he, in effect, declared that all black men should be able to hold the priesthood and receive the blessings of the Mormon temples even though this "revelation" contradicted the "revelations" and beliefs of so many prophets before him.

The decision made in 1978 also shows that Mormons will ultimately accept just about anything their leaders tell them. When it comes to accountability, the leadership of the LDS Church answers to no one but God. But what the hell does that really mean when they make decisions that contradict what Mormons have historically considered to be God's unchanging will? Polygamy, blacks and the priesthood...

Whatever. At least it demonstrates that another huge shift in Mormon doctrine is possible through "revelation" and if/when it occurs church members will very likely jump on board.

In short, I believe the church will eventually come around and the millions of other younger Mormons struggling with the gay issue will follow suit, much as their parents did in 1978 in response to the decision to let black people hold positions within the church.
In the past several years I've seen dozens of Mormons come out in support of gay marriage. That feels big. Monumental. So. To celebrate, instead of some human rights diatribe, I present to you the funniest shit on the nets about marriage equality. You're welcome.

Reader Comments (11)

I just tried to "like" this :) Happy birthday btw :)

March 27, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterSam

Thanks, I am so excited to get the Love Birds artwork!
Happy Birthday!

March 27, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterLindsey

Happy Birthday ole gal! (I"m ten years older than you--) I LOVE the humorous marriage pics, LOVE. I live in SF and everyone is so serious and tense because of the Prop. 8 case being heard yesterday, it was wonderful to get some comic relief!!! I was chatting with my co-workers in our cafeteria yesterday, and started a rant: what about those of us who DON'T want to get married... ever!? Can we please have some respect, too?
The current vibe is that Marriage is an inalienable right and the goal for everyone. We Singletons would like to say, our pursuit of happiness shouldn't be pitied simply because we are 'alone'!!! Kindness for All!

March 27, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterKaren

Happy birthday, Monica...hope you have the best day ever!

March 27, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterHanni

Happy Birthday Monica! Here's to many more! :)

March 27, 2013 | Unregistered Commenterelleroy

Happy Birthday!!! So happy that your post this year rings with happiness and contentment. Glad you're where you want to be. Work it, girl! :) Clicked over and read your other birthday posts. The cake fire video is set to private, but I bet it was super memorable.

March 27, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterRita

happy happy birthday Monica!

March 27, 2013 | Unregistered Commenteranajo

Duh! Sorry y'all! Cake fire is now available for all to view! By the sound of his voice I suspect he'd had a few beers while waiting for me to come home from work thus the fire.

March 27, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterTheGirlWho

Happy birthday to you! Hope you had an amazing day...


March 27, 2013 | Unregistered Commenterchristine from canada

Happy Birthday!!!!
I hope you have an absolutely wonderful day.
The sea of red on my FB feed makes me so damn happy. Things. They are a'changin.

Also, can we talk about Serge's thick Philly accent in the cake video?? Holy hell.

March 28, 2013 | Unregistered Commentermr


March 28, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterNatalie

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